FS magazine, surveyed Gay and Bi men and discovered that nearly 40% of gay men have anxiety issues when it comes to their own penis but are also quick to judge others.
Some other interesting findings came out of the survey:
89% had shared a dick pic, and 30% said they wouldn’t care if that pic was shared with other people.
16% had heard derogatory comments about their penis, 21% had suffered from erectile dysfunction, and 28% had problems with ejaculating too quickly.
When asked if penis size mattered, half – 49% – said no. Slightly more than a third, 37%, said yes.
And also, 74% said they are happy with their penis size.
Regarding the 22% who had rejected someone because of their penis size, CEO of GMFA Ian Howley said this was likely due to their own ‘insecurities’.
‘People already have anxieties about their own issues because of their penis size,’ he said
‘If you’re rejecting someone, you might be doing that because you’re afraid they’ll reject you first. That means you need to look at your own insecurities, and you’re going to be less confident about themselves and the sex they want.’
While it is ‘easier said than done’ to get over anxiety issues to do with your penis size, Howley encouraged those who felt they had a real issue to seek counselling to ensure size doesn’t make an impact on health and well-being.
‘We found people who are bigger than average to have a bigger anxiety,’ Howley said. ‘Not only do they have to deal with being rejected sometimes, but also people who just use them for their penis size than as a person.’
Howley concluded: ‘All gay men deserve to have the best sex possible. Our penises come in many shapes, sizes and skin tones – just as we do. And like us, our penises need looking after. Just don’t let your penis dictate your whole life.’
By Jabulani Kheswa on www.theconversation.com
During a ceremony at the University of Fort Hare early last year, I had the pleasure of watching some students who’d participated in one of my research projects graduate. As they crossed the stage to receive their degree certificates their families, friends and lecturers all ululated with delight.
What made this moment perhaps surprising was that the graduates were lesbian women. Fort Hare is in South Africa’s Eastern Cape province, which is known to hold conservative ideas about sex and sexuality. But these graduates were self confident and proud. They made no attempt to hide their non-conforming expressions of gender: a more masculine style of dressing, for instance.
How, in an environment that is considered conservative and even sometimes openly homophobic, did these women develop such a strong sense of self-confidence? I was able to find out through a project I conducted as part of my ongoing research about youth, sexuality and gender. The purpose of all my research is to try and shift attitudes towards the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, intersex and queer (LGTBIQ) community at Fort Hare through increased visibility and the normalisation of queer identities.
The research project in question was conducted with black lesbian students to understand their experiences at Fort Hare University. Black here refers to people of African descent; the majority of Fort Hare’s student population is black.
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