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FS magazine, surveyed Gay and Bi men and discovered that nearly 40% of gay men have anxiety issues when it comes to their own penis but are also quick to judge others.
Some other interesting findings came out of the survey:
89% had shared a dick pic, and 30% said they wouldn’t care if that pic was shared with other people.
16% had heard derogatory comments about their penis, 21% had suffered from erectile dysfunction, and 28% had problems with ejaculating too quickly.
When asked if penis size mattered, half – 49% – said no. Slightly more than a third, 37%, said yes.
And also, 74% said they are happy with their penis size.Yellowbulge
Regarding the 22% who had rejected someone because of their penis size, CEO of GMFA Ian Howley said this was likely due to their own ‘insecurities’.
‘People already have anxieties about their own issues because of their penis size,’ he said
‘If you’re rejecting someone, you might be doing that because you’re afraid they’ll reject you first. That means you need to look at your own insecurities, and you’re going to be less confident about themselves and the sex they want.’
While it is ‘easier said than done’ to get over anxiety issues to do with your penis size, Howley encouraged those who felt they had a real issue to seek counselling to ensure size doesn’t make an impact on health and well-being.
‘We found people who are bigger than average to have a bigger anxiety,’ Howley said. ‘Not only do they have to deal with being rejected sometimes, but also people who just use them for their penis size than as a person.’
Howley concluded: ‘All gay men deserve to have the best sex possible. Our penises come in many shapes, sizes and skin tones – just as we do. And like us, our penises need looking after. Just don’t let your penis dictate your whole life.’

And speaking of that, a cautionary tale: Penis enlargement operations are getting steadily more popular, but, things can go wrong.
Researchers at the University of California in Irvine followed 11 men who had complications after penis enlargement surgery.
Four of the men, including one as young as 21, had made the enlargement attempts themselves.
Penis enlargement surgery, or penoplasty, is carried out by injecting a substance into the penis tissue. It is designed to make the organ thicker and longer for aesthetic or sexual reasons. Many of the afflicted men required surgery – in some cases the flesh of the penis had to be completely stripped away or split open.
The authors wrote: ‘Penile enlargement surgeries are often promoted and presented as safe with minimal risks, yet we have seen… the risks are significant.’ In one case, a 48-year-old had fat injected under the skin on his penis. He suffered ‘major penile shaft swelling and deformity’.
The penis, which resembled a potato, had to be sliced. The skin had to be peeled back to the body like a banana so the fat could be removed.
Could it be body dysmorphia?
Researchers said the vast majority of men seeking penis enlargement surgery have normal penises. The scientists suggest these men may be suffering from a form of body dysmorphia.
‘Most patients who seek penile augmentation have normal penile length and anatomy,’ they wrote in the Journal of Sexual Medicine.
At one unnamed clinic, over a two-year period every single man who enquired about the procedure had a normal penis, the report said.
The scientists believe many men have an inaccurate view of what a ‘normal’ penis looks like. ‘Men with normal penile size and anatomy may experience benefit from less risky alternatives,’ they said.
In a warning, authors added there was a ‘very real potential for devastating and long-lasting complications’. Anyone considering penis enlargement surgery should seek professional advice.
So what is normal?

The British Journal of Urology International have synthesized data from 17 previous academic papers that included measurements from a total of 15,521 men from around the world. The results tell us that the average flaccid, pendulous penis is 9.16 cm (3.61 inches) in length; the average erect penis is 13.12 cm (5.16 inches) long. The corresponding girth measurements are 9.31 cm (3.66 inches) for a flaccid penis and 11.66 cm (4.59 inches) for an erect one.

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