Written by Siliziwe Mapalala


I admire archivists. They have an outlook of the world that does not only see things as they are right now, but understand the importance of documenting our lives for future generations. They see that our comings and goings, both significant and insignificant, have the potential of being powerful to those we will never meet, but that we can still share our knowledge and shine a light on how diverse lives were lived. 


When Tiffany Kagure Mugo looked around her, what she noticed was that queer narratives were mainly reflecting our collective suffering, or our collective pride. Our individual stories of joy, freedom, family, love and sex were nowhere to be found. So she took it upon herself and founded the HOLA Africa (Hub of Loving in Action Africa or HOLAA) which is a platform where queer people can engage with material that explores sex and sexuality. 


Tiffany explains: “I noticed that people were writing about sex so badly; the logistics were off, pleasure would not be mentioned and people were writing problematic, non-consensual stories. So HOLAA aims to document stories, but move towards sex education from a pleasure perspective, queering it up and making it vibey.” 


Besides founding and curating HOLAA, Tiffany also hosts a podcast called Basically… Life, and has authored books such as A Quirky Quick Guide to Having Great Sex and with Kim Windvogel, compiled the book titled Touch, which have been positively received. 


I had the privilege of having a quick chat with Tiffany before she was on her way to pole dancing class (a hobby she enjoys when she isn’t taking over the world). When asked why we (as a society) are weird about sex, her response opened my mind to a perspective I had never considered:


“We are told sex is natural, therefore we assume it will come naturally to us. This is not the case. Even when something is natural this does not mean we will just be able to do the task. Talking is natural but we have to be taught it, in fact even breathing. When we are born the doctor has to spank the baby’s ass to ensure they are breathing… Essentially we have to be prompted even to do this natural act. So how much more sex?”


The audience for HOLAA is directed at queer folk (having originally being named Hub of Lesbian Action Africa, but later changed to Hub of Loving Action Africa), but this is not to say even cishet individuals have not found the content useful. In Tiffany’s words; “Sex is universal and cannot be boxed. It is like oxygen, as humans we all need it.”


Along with Siphumeze Khundayi, Tiffany was also a TED Talk speaker, where they presented on a talk titled How To Have A Healthier, Positive Relationship to Sex. Tiffany is an archivist, ensuring that our stories are being documented, and that we have representation for future generations. She has created a space for us to share our stories, while also challenging us to question our assumptions on sex so we become more open, explorative and get more pleasure out of life. 


“It is the false idea that learning about sex is a ‘sprint’. We should always be open to learning, as this is a marathon, not a sprint.” – Tiffany Kagure Mugo

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