Our names carry our destinies sometimes, and we have the daily obligation to live up to them. African names are beautiful, high concept and prophetic. Names carry a gateway to success; names carry wishes and bring light where there is darkness. Names are what we are remembered for.
Aliases, nicknames, spirit names, surnames and clan names are precious and profound. When adversity erases the meaning of your name, you may feel defeated and purposeless. Those feelings of inadequateness may linger for years and trigger depression. I have been on that lonely and cold road but there is hope all around us. Music was my hope and saved me. Nobody is immune from heartbreak, misfortune and all the unpredictable jazz in life. We are here for a reason.
“Diamonds are bright because they have experienced so much pressure, turmoil and destruction.” My name carries so much weight in gold, that when hardships torment me I feel ungracious like rusted jewellery. It is only up to us that we search for treasures within to make our names as precious as tanzanite; a rare stone only found in one place in the world. I allude to this because there is only one you in the world. You are special, no matter what you may be going through. Beyoncé sung it better, “You won’t break my soul.”
I follow our lovely cover star Mohale Motaung who is ever-charming and inspiring. Mohale once Tweeted:
“Mohale directly translated into English means HERO. HERO: A common person, placed in uncommonly difficult circumstances, who displays uncommonly noble character. I am my name and I choose to live up to it. I refuse to let anything or anyone convince me otherwise. #KeMohale.”
With that said, let us live up to our names and truth, like Mohale suggests. A recent video of a popular astrologer and life coach who I really admire Kathy LaDonna, has a strong message: “Whoever validates you, owns you.” That is why it is important to know thyself. The Matrix (1999) has an iconic scene where the protagonist, Neo (played by Keanu Reeves) visits The Oracle (played by Gloria Foster) for clarity on his journey, fate and destiny. The Oracle tells Neo that as much as she is a guide, her gift cannot replace self-confidence. In essence, we must find the strength within and believe in ourselves.
I studied various TEDX Talks presented by psychotherapists, clinical psychologists and psychiatrists on dealing with heartbreak of all kinds, especially one we have all experienced at some point: failed romantic relationships. One speaker Tasha Jackson, shared that her unforgettable break-up inspired her to take her craft seriously. Jackson said she encouraged her ex to pursue something he was afraid of and became a master afterwards. “Just because our relationship ended, it does not mean we did not learn something great from each other.”
Enlightened ones like to say “we are spiritual beings having a human experience,” implying that we are in this physical realm to learn as much as we can with the free-will that has been granted to us – to make our souls stronger. Gogo Dineo Ndlanzi also held a seminar about karmic relationships: that these bonds are so powerful and fulfilling yet do not end like fairy tales because we need to re-inculcate soul evolution lessons.
We are in the midst of a grand spiritual awakening. Live up to your name, if it does not inspire you, create a new title plus motto. We are not perfect; the beauty is in the imperfections that compel us to learn about ourselves. This issue celebrates the young, gifted and queer like Mohale Motaung whose optimism is so contagious.
Resilience compels abundance.